On Loneliness and Emotion

Children do not hold in their emotions. They express their emotions as they feel like it. But in adolescence and even throughout adulthood there comes a time when some people just become too shy to express emotions-especially loneliness-in front of other people. These people will be more comfortable when alone. This might be the case if they reject any immediate consolation from others because they do not feel like people around them can hear out their problems and understand them immediately, or if they do not want people to see how weak they are or misunderstand them in the state of loneliness.

Emotions have a scientific root to it-the sudden release of specific hormones will trigger a specific or a blend of emotions in a person's body. This in turn will appear through the different bodily responses like producing tears, mucus, and other muscular and nervous responses. This explains that emotions must naturally be expressed as it is also included in the programming of the body. In movies and other fictional works, we applaud the strength and empathize with the loneliness of a protagonist who suppresses their feelings in front of people. the suppressed loneliness is presented in such a cinematic way that we want to know how the character will go through with the pain. In real life, if a particularly painful event triggers one's loneliness and we suppress it, the brain will still tend to remember it, stocking it in the consciousness as a memory, and however we want to hide it, a single trigger will release it and the feeling that comes along with it.

Now the release of emotions, as stated above, is a natural occurrence in the human body, however, the danger lies when the conscious mind in the middle of responding to the sudden outflow of emotions- makes a sudden decision because of the loneliness being felt. For example, when people focus on crying, being alone, and thinking about a painful situation, those feelings might undermine the other bodily processes that are supposed to happen like hunger because the brain is conditioned to focus on the feelings and less on other bodily processes. That is why some people tend to lose appetite, eat more, and sleep more or less depending on the trigger of their loneliness.